Comfortable in my skin: if you have nothing nice to say, zip it!
- zubechiugwu
- Aug 2, 2024
- 4 min read
I remember traveling back to the village for Christmas last year and being confronted with aunties who weren’t pleased with the amount of weight I had added. Most couldn’t hide their surprise and blatantly pointed it out, not minding the tone or manner to which they were saying it.
Its a lot transitioning from being a slim child to quite a plum lady because you weren’t comfortable having a large head on a small body, only to have nature run its course and have everyone hurry to break down the walls of self-esteem you finally began to create.
While this article was written to discredit those words used, its other aim is to help every lady suffering from a similar dilemma find her courage to fall in love with herself all over again.
While I vouch for eating healthy, exercising and keeping a healthy weight, we cannot overlook the struggles many people face while attaining their desired physical look. However, to some -like me- having a little flesh in the right places have helped me feel more confident in my skin.
Would I love to loose some weight? Of course I would and perhaps that is the answer for so many of my readers, however no one is given the role to nit pick at my body or the way I look, especially if they were not asked to. The rise in purchase of weight gain or loss pills or drinks, including unlicensed concotions is alarming with the bid to loose weight quickly.
we can only control our reactions to certain remarks as opposed to attempting to control what people say.
If you have nothing nice to say and you cant construct your words so as not to come off offensive when speaking to someone about their weight, then maybe you shouldn’t speak at all. That being said, we can only control our reactions to certain remarks as opposed to attempting to control what people say. So here are some steps to building that confidence back up again.
Look at your reflection- if you have ever dealt with body dysmorphia as I have then you know exactly why this is toping my list. For a long time, especially in my late teens to earlier 20’s I fought with the urge to break any reflective surface I came across. I couldn’t stand for pictures and I hated seeing my image anywhere. I was either too thin for most or too fat for the others and soon I just didn’t want people to see me totally. I wanted to become invisible. So yes, look at your reflection in the mirror every day and just love on yourself.
Speak kind words to yourself- you can download words of affirmation and stick them on your mirror in your room or bathroom and read them daily as you stare into the beauty that you are. Also listen to podcasts that build your self esteem. It is one thing for people to speak negatively to you but it is a whole other issue if you fail to see and acknowledge the beauty you harness
Exercise and eat healthy - be it to add some weight, loose some weight or maintain your present weight, the role of exercise cannot be overemphasized. Although I struggle with consistency, I always feel better after I am able to sweat a bit and force some fruits down my throat. You could also opt for exercise and diet plans or work with groups that would keep you motivated.
Surround yourself with people who see the best in you- someone once said to me, if you keep positioning yourself to listen to negative comments, soon your mindset would be tailored negatively -thank you that one random bolt driver-. Surrounding yourself with people that know how to address you while respecting your feelings helps in keeping you motivated and encouraged. This is not to say you only keep friends who tell you what you want to hear as that has never helped anyone get better.
We should try as much as possible to be sensitive when addressing certain issues and on the other hand learn to pick the right people whose words you will prioritize above all else.
Struggling with loosing or gaining weight might come with its own challenges and coupled with the negative comments you also have to deal with has led many people to depression. We should try as much as possible to be sensitive when addressing certain issues and on the other hand learn to pick the right people whose words you will prioritize above all else.
The journey to loving and accepting your body might be a tedious one but the end result creates a more confident and beautiful version of yourself the world has never seen.
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Thank you and have a wonderful day ahead.
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